05-04-16, 11:16 AM | |
Join Date: Mar 2005
Location: Atlantic Canada
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Yeah, they struggled with that one for quite a long time (we've been together almost 15 years). Eventually they decided that there isn't actually a biblical precedent for the modern form of legal marriage. That is, marriage was historically measured more in terms of a conscious and durable, life-long commitment between two people, rather than a legal contract. And they said that it's obvious that's what we have, so they consider us to be married in biblical terms. I have no idea what the bible actually says about the matter it's not something that ever mattered to me, but I was pretty touched that they made the effort to reconcile our relationship to their beliefs. And it was nice to see they felt the same way about our relationship as we did - we just never felt the need to legally formalize something that we felt was already obvious.
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05-04-16, 11:22 AM | ||
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Join Date: May 2008
Location: Chicagoland, IL, USA
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That's wonderful that your in-laws-so-to-speak are so understanding! I guess they know that the institution of marriage (in whatever form it takes) did not originate with Christianity. Good on you all!
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05-04-16, 12:07 PM | |
Join Date: Jan 2009
Location: So. California
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I'm old school. I would mail them an anniversary card. Just because you were not invited to the event doesn't mean you should not acknowledge their happy occasion. Especially if these are people you know and have had many interactions with
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05-04-16, 12:58 PM | |
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Join Date: Nov 2001
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Ebhinn, that sounds like a wonderful idea. In-laws on Saturday, your parents on Sunday. Or brunch and church with his parents (not sure if you attending might make them extra happy or whether they wouldn't appreciate it if you don't share their beliefs), and then dinner and a party with yours. Exhausting, but doable.
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05-04-16, 01:29 PM | |
Join Date: Oct 2013
Location: NJ
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Thanks. I still haven't done anything because I've been very torn between feeling left out/hurt and thinking I should at least send a card. The party has already happened and I thought maybe it's too late to send a card, but I'm leaning toward buying a card tomorrow for the reasons you stated. I have had many interactions with them and we usually spend major holidays together so I'm just going to assume I wasn't invited because they wanted to keep it small and just close family and leave it at that. Thanks again to everyone who responded. It was very helpful to read how others would handle this.
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05-04-16, 04:10 PM | ||
Join Date: Oct 2013
Location: NJ
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