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Vintage VFer 01-24-21 12:38 PM

Are you an Introvert or an Extrovert?
 
I noted in another thread that being an introvert has finally become an advantage in my life (as opposed to it causing the usual awkward disasters).

The stay-at-home mandate is hard on everyone, but much harder, IMHO, on extroverts. I've never had a gym membership. I've taken group classes on and off over the years, but my choice is to work out at home.

Are you an introvert or an extrovert?

Erica H. 01-24-21 12:49 PM

I'm more of an introvert than I thought. I love being stuck at home all the time and not seeing people and having an excuse to have people over and meet with them. In fact, I don't know how I'll adjust when things go back to normal.

My dd is an introvert who just started college and all of the covid restrictions have really helped with her transition to college. I think it would have been overwhelming for her to have the traditional college experience, but she loves it the way it is now.

One of my sons is an introvert who is single and working remotely. He does get lonely so he has been staying with us quite a bit since this all started.

Erica

Erica H. 01-24-21 12:51 PM

Oh, and I agree that the restrictions have been very difficult for extroverts and also singles. It's definitely a big problem for some and they are suffering. :(

Erica

yogapam 01-24-21 01:17 PM

I am somewhat of an introvert. I don’t like large crowds or big social gatherings. I need a certain amount of solitude and don’t do well with houseguests for more than a week. I’m surviving the restrictions, but I really miss my family. That’s the hardest part for me. I also miss our circle of friends, we did a lot of informal dinner parties where everyone contributed. I enjoyed group yoga & barre classes in the city occasionally, but those I can live without. I’m teaching my Essentrics classes on zoom, but miss seeing my students. My students are a small group, I don’t have any desire to increase numbers & turn it into a business. I also miss traveling, we did a lot of that and look forward to cautiously returning to it at some point.

We do lots of zoom visits & are able to meet friends & family for outdoor visits & walks. We are fortunate that cases in our area remain very low, hoping it stays that way.

adawn 01-24-21 02:06 PM

I'm a total introvert so life during the time of COVID is not much different for me as I tend to stay at home and not socialize much anyways. But I feel terrible for the family/friends I know that thrive on being around others and those who are used to having at least some amount of social activity planned into their calendars, e.g. eating out with friends, going to the theatre (musicals and films), playing bridge, volunteer activities, group fitness classes, etc.

As an aside, I loved the book Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can't Stop Talking by Susan Cain.

https://www.amazon.com/Quiet-Power-I...dp/0307352153/

I read a physical copy of the book from my local library back five years ago at least but now my library has it available to download/checkout for free to your kindle via Overdrive or you can check it out as an e-book (again for free) via cloudLibrary (at least through my library).

Paine 01-24-21 02:18 PM

I'm an introvert, a homebody and very shy. I agree that the stay-at-home mandate is harder on extroverts. Like Pam, I also miss my family terribly since the pandemic started. I can't wait for the day when I can hug my 2 sons, my sister and my nephew and have them inside my house for a meal.

BunnyHop 01-24-21 03:02 PM

Definitely an introvert. In some ways I enjoy not having to go out any more than absolutely necessary.

The pandemic restrictions have helped me realize that I'd been putting pressure on my self to socialize more.

I had just begun to realize that I wanted and needed to branch out from my tiny little circle just as things closed down, so that has been a bit frustrating.

OTOH, I've picked up some great stay at home hobbies and now I have PLENTY of time to indulge, LOL!

Messe 01-24-21 04:21 PM

The pandemic restrictions have shown me that I’m far less introverted than I thought. I’m single, and I really, really, really, really miss being with people! I want to have a meal with someone (or several someones). I want to shop in person for something other than groceries. I want to hang out with my BFF in person instead of doing virtual Happy Hours. And as for meetings and events, Zoom is not a reasonable substitute — if I want to see a screen filled with talking heads, I’ll turn on the news!

fanofladyvols 01-24-21 04:33 PM

Fun poll!

But I wonder how many introverts are too reserved to even vote on this ?

yogapam 01-24-21 04:39 PM

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Originally Posted by Messe (Post 2908962)
The pandemic restrictions have shown me that I’m far less introverted than I thought. I’m single, and I really, really, really, really miss being with people! I want to have a meal with someone (or several someones). I want to shop in person for something other than groceries. I want to hang out with my BFF in person instead of doing virtual Happy Hours. And as for meetings and events, Zoom is not a reasonable substitute — if I want to see a screen filled with talking heads, I’ll turn on the news!

(((Hugs))), I feel for you! We have strict measures in place here, no social gatherings or mixing households, but there are exceptions for those who live alone. They are allowed two contacts. Our provincial health officer, who is overseeing our Covid plan, feels mental health is important too.

athompson10 01-24-21 06:33 PM

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Originally Posted by Messe (Post 2908962)
Zoom is not a reasonable substitute — if I want to see a screen filled with talking heads, I’ll turn on the news!

:D:D:D

I loathe Zoom with the fire of a thousand suns.

Introvert here and staying at home has not been a huge adjustment for me.

yogapam 01-24-21 07:21 PM

Video calls and outdoor visits or walks are all I’ve got right now, so I’m going with that. I guess I’m not as much of an introvert as I thought as I do need some social contact.

hch 01-25-21 05:49 AM

I'm a definite introvert, though not an "extreme" one. (For example, I'd describe myself as socially flexible, and I've never felt what some people call an "introvert hangover," but ultimately being with other people tends to drain my energy, and I'd probably adjust very well to being physically alone.)

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Originally Posted by Vintage VFer (Post 2908937)
I've never had a gym membership. I've taken group classes on and off over the years, but my choice is to work out at home.

I've never taken group classes, though not because of introversion.

I've had a gym membership for years (and may at some point consider other settings, such as a studio for something more specialized). I like using the gym mainly because it has equipment and other facilities; a home gym setup that would satisfy me has yet to be practical for me. I've never chatted with anyone at the gym and have never wanted to socialize there :p--nothing is "wrong" with the people there, but socializing is not at all a reason for me to use a gym.

My interest in home fitness (I really tend more toward "both-and" than "either-or") comes from versatility and other practical considerations--each setting has different advantages and disadvantages for me. My interest doesn't come from introversion as such.

If anything, my personality-based preferences even dampen my interest in exercising at home. I'm also "private" in some ways, and although I don't want to conflate this sort of preference with introversion, I can also see an overlap. I may get more of what I'll call "absolute privacy" at home, as fewer overall people would see me at home, but I get more of what I'll call "effective privacy" at a gym or other outside setting, as fewer people who "know me" in certain ways would see me at the gym. (In a similar way, I'm also not embarrassed about singing, but I'm much more comfortable singing, even by myself or as part of a small harmonizing group, in front of a large group of strangers than in front of a small group of family. My family isn't even especially dysfunctional. :p)

DCW 01-25-21 06:04 AM

I am an extrovert. I get energy from people. I don't need it 24/7. I like listening to others stories and life experiences.

I hate Zoom meetings. I feel drained mentally and physically after one. Truly they hurt my head.

fanofladyvols 01-25-21 09:15 AM

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Originally Posted by DCW (Post 2909034)
I am an extrovert. I get energy from people. I don't need it 24/7. I like listening to others stories and life experiences.

I hate Zoom meetings. I feel drained mentally and physically after one. Truly they hurt my head.

That's exactly how I feel after the zoom meetings!

Diana3271 01-25-21 10:12 AM

I am an introvert. When all of this first started a lot of stuff was shut down here. I felt wonderful and was even able to lose 10 pounds easily. Once things started opening back up and we got back to more of a normal routine my anxiety started flaring up again. Of course I gained back the weight I lost. I do well on my own with my DH and some contact with certain friends. Too much outside stimulation with others causes anxiety for me.

Vantreesta 01-25-21 11:46 AM

I am definitely an introvert but I do miss quality time with my family and close friends. I can handle crowds if nothing is expected of me (I love concerts). I am finding it harder to grieve and mourn during covid, which I didn't expect. I'm not a big hugger but have discovered I do miss hugs from people I really care about. Hubby is working a completely unreasonable amount of hours (in the office) so I am alone way more than before (I am not working). I am so thankful to have my dog Cyric for company all the time. I miss time with my hubby.

I really miss our hiking and snowshoeing trips (these are in part due to his working so much and part bc of not really wanting to stay in hotels right now). I miss races. I miss concerts. I miss seeing friends (now that it's winter they don't want to sit outside to visit or even go hiking like I suggested). I miss going to church. And lately I have just been wanting to go wander around the mall and stores just because. I go out to get groceries and other necessities but being in stores and wearing a mask is very anxiety-inducing right now.

I love being home all the time with those few exceptions.

Rivercat 01-25-21 11:54 AM

I'm an introvert and was already working from home when the shelter in place started so not very much changed, but I do miss taking my laptop to a coffee shop or the library for a change of scenery and people watching. My friend and I joke that we've been training for this all our lives.

The college thing is interesting. My godson is in his sophomore year at UC Irvine and opted to stay on campus even though his classes are online because his dorm is fairly empty and being near friends has made it much easier to focus, which is something he struggles with.

antbuko 01-25-21 05:50 PM

I'm an introvert. I like being with people and activities but than I need decompression time. Covid hasn't been too hard, but I am sick of it anyway.

laurajhawk 01-25-21 06:43 PM

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Originally Posted by antbuko (Post 2909131)
I'm an introvert. I like being with people and activities but than I need decompression time. Covid hasn't been too hard, but I am sick of it anyway.

Me, too, that.
I really like studio yoga classes; it's a "people" activity that feels safe and pleasant to me, and I have good friends there. During COVID I've gone to classes off & on, but when the numbers are bad/climbing, I take the livestream option. I find that livestream satisfies a little bit of my need for interaction, although studio is a whole lot better.

Rivercat mentioned missing coffee shops. I do, too. I like doing my own thing but having people around me (also, coffee; also, pastries).

Laura S. 01-25-21 06:56 PM

I'm an introvert. I enjoy seeing and interacting with people, but I get my energy from being on my own. I've enjoyed the option of doing software training via Zoom these days. I get to interact with people from home and then stop.

Taramisu 01-26-21 06:41 AM

I am an introvert, so while this pandemic has been difficult, I have handled okay.

Even so though, I still have to get out here and there, largely being confined at home for the past year for work and in general has it's good and bad points, even for an introvert like me.

Vintage VFer 01-31-21 02:34 PM

I ran across an article about introverts, highly sensitive people and empaths. I can access it from my iPhone, but it doesn't work om my computer due to my ad blocker:

https://www.insider.com/difference-b...roverts-2018-6

I'd never heard of an "introvert hangover" before. I know what it feels like though.

Erica H. 01-31-21 02:44 PM

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Originally Posted by Vintage VFer (Post 2910145)

I'd never heard of an "introvert hangover" before. I know what it feels like though.

Two of my kids experience that. They will express exhaustion after being in situations with people - anything from crowds like at a fair to one-on-one interaction with someone for a long period of time (spending the day with a friend) - and need time to recover. ETA - they are adults now, but have always experienced that "introvert hangover." Three of my four kids are introverts.

Erica

Exercise Diva 02-02-21 10:11 AM

I always thought of myself as an extrovert but am more introverted than I thought. The staying at home thing isn't bothering me at all. My husband on the other hand is going crazy!

Paine 02-02-21 08:07 PM

I find it interesting that most of the people that participated in this survey are introverts. I did a google search and it said that extroverts outnumber introverts by 3 to 1. I didn't know that!

Vantreesta 02-03-21 08:03 AM

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Originally Posted by Paine (Post 2910516)
I find it interesting that most of the people that participated in this survey are introverts. I did a google search and it said that extroverts outnumber introverts by 3 to 1. I didn't know that!

I totally expected more introverts here than extroverts! :) That surprises me that extroverts outnumber introverts in the general population. It seems like almost all my friends and family are introverts. My mom was easily the biggest extrovert I've ever known. She loved people so much and drew energy from being around them. I love being with my friends but do feel that energy drain sometimes. I definitely recharge when alone.

Pat58 02-03-21 09:46 AM

I voted depends on the situation but for the most part I'm an introvert.

I think I've suffered a lot less than most people during COVID isolation. I pretty much only miss family gatherings. I miss going to shows because we don't interact with others and stay in our own bubble and don't need to interact with anyone. When I was on furlough, I missed interacting with my co-workers which came as a shock. :D

Mingling with people I don't know or aren't really acquainted with is like a root canal for me. I think going back to "normal" is going to be more of a challenge than most of you have endured with the lockdowns.

hch 02-03-21 12:45 PM

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Originally Posted by Paine (Post 2910516)
I find it interesting that most of the people that participated in this survey are introverts.

Quote:

Originally Posted by Vantreesta (Post 2910565)
I totally expected more introverts here than extroverts! :)

I expected the same, if only because VF has had at least one earlier thread about personality differences. Previous discussion included the idea that some people are especially interested in home exercise (which video exercise tends to be) because of their introversion.

Quote:

Originally Posted by Paine (Post 2910516)
I did a google search and it said that extroverts outnumber introverts by 3 to 1. I didn't know that!

Quote:

Originally Posted by Vantreesta (Post 2910565)
That surprises me that extroverts outnumber introverts in the general population.

I'm not surprised--though mainly because I'd seen those numbers years ago. ;) In the more recent past, though, I've also seen higher numbers for introverts.

diggerholliday 02-03-21 05:02 PM

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Originally Posted by hch (Post 2910614)
I expected the same, if only because VF has had at least one earlier thread about personality differences. Previous discussion included the idea that some people are especially interested in home exercise (which video exercise tends to be) because of their introversion.

This!
VF probably has an over representation of introverts because home exercising is a natural fit for us.

Laura S. 02-03-21 06:17 PM

You'd never tell it by VF, but extroverts are more the norm - or, at least, they have been in the past. I expected if you have ever worked in an office where management expected socializing during and outside of work, then you've seen it. I worked on a team once where I was the only introvert. It was exhausting.

Vantreesta 02-03-21 06:47 PM

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Originally Posted by Laura S. (Post 2910650)
You'd never tell it by VF, but extroverts are more the norm - or, at least, they have been in the past. I expected if you have ever worked in an office where management expected socializing during and outside of work, then you've seen it. I worked on a team once where I was the only introvert. It was exhausting.

Ugh, don't remind me about work! I had many arguments with my boss about the uselessness of ice breakers and gabbing during meetings. Give me the 10 minutes worth of information and let me go back to work! And when I felt forced to do the social after work thing I quickly ate and said I have to go for a run now, bye! And if you're an introvert AND a germophobe? Then you refuse to do the let's share appetizers thing and have everyone look at you like you have two heads and get out as fast as you can! Of course, that was partly bc of where I worked. At my previous job I thoroughly enjoyed my coworkers and hanging out with them (but still didn't share food!).

DCW 02-03-21 07:08 PM

As an extrovert, I rarely socialise with coworkers, especially after work.

Nelly G 02-05-21 07:54 AM

I am an introvert because I do not like to workout in groups or in gyms. I always attrack attention somehow of sweaty man who smell who start talking to me and I do not workout to talk but because how it makes me relaxed and gives me energy. As a child my parents put me in the garden and older woman who were mostly grumpy came to talk to me and smile and gave me sweets.
When I was young I was in a band as a singer and did perform because I loved to sing ( I tend not to look at people, look passed them) but now I do not know why people love to hear my voice and see me performing. I do not understand why I did that. I do not want that anymore.

This all sounds like I am an extrovert but I really love to be on my own, get energy from that. I do not like parties or going out. I think it is maybe how I look and dress and how I am. I think I am still an introvert but who attracks somehow people. I arranged yesterday that a grumpy co worker at the Hospital helped me more then he helps my other female colleagues and I even did not ask him to help me. And he was not grumpy to me.

bubbles76 02-05-21 09:11 AM

I'm an introvert, but most people don't believe it. I'm in a very extroverted field of work. I don't miss being at the office. I thought by now I would, but I don't, even though I really like my co-workers. I miss being able to go to the mall and people watch, going to the park, hanging out at the library, and general meandering. I think I miss that mostly because that's what me and Tiny Bubble would do on the weekends. We were always in the wind!

Vantreesta 02-05-21 01:29 PM

For years I tried to get my boss to let me work from home. My job was totally doable remotely. She never did let me switch permanently, although there were days here and there that she let me and all my OT hours I did at home. Coworkers were always asking me but wouldn't you be lonely, wouldn't you miss us? There is no way to answer that honestly without sounding like a jerk! I do not miss working at all.

For people in in my inner circle, I think sometimes they may forget I'm so introverted bc if I'm close to you I generally talk a lot!!

Vintage VFer 02-06-21 12:46 PM

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Originally Posted by bubbles76 (Post 2910841)
I'm an introvert, but most people don't believe it. I'm in a very extroverted field of work. ...

In my former life, I was an actor, director and stage performer. Being an introvert made all that a bit more challenging. :)

yogapam 02-06-21 12:54 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Laura S. (Post 2910650)
You'd never tell it by VF, but extroverts are more the norm - or, at least, they have been in the past. I expected if you have ever worked in an office where management expected socializing during and outside of work, then you've seen it. I worked on a team once where I was the only introvert. It was exhausting.

Interesting that extroverts are the norm. I think working out at home just appeals more to introverts, hence the poll results. I don’t know many people who worked out at home before Covid set in. The sudden run on home fitness equipment speaks to that, lol. I think when things get back to some sort of normal where we can safely be out and about more, there will likely be a lot of used fitness equipment on the market!

Laura S. 02-06-21 01:11 PM

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Originally Posted by yogapam (Post 2911032)
I think when things get back to some sort of normal where we can safely be out and about more, there will likely be a lot of used fitness equipment on the market!

Introverted VFers should start getting their budgets ready now... :D:cool:

buffmama 02-07-21 10:35 AM

Extroverted introvert here. I speak to different people all day long at work which can be fun. I prefer small groups to larger ones and definitely recharge in quiet stillness. That said I'm over the isolation that is going on at this time!


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