Judy-hugs!! I am so sorry!!! I would not worry about exercise right now, to be honest (but you're a vidiot, so of course you are
).
If you were told to rest, make sure to get up every fifteen minutes or so, and move around. For me at least, back pain is worse if I stay still for a long time, even with using heat. My back will just lock up, which is awful.
If you see a physical therapist or chiropractor, they can give you specific stretches to do to relieve the pain and stiffness. They will also help strengthen your core. The spasms are beyond horrible-I've had them at night where it hurts to move or breathe. I hope they are better for you today.
I have scoliosis and bulging lumbar discs, and can get out of alignment very easily.
I just purchased the Allaire Back care PBS season one. I did the first episode yesterday, and did not have back pain yesterday! I can post a link if you'd like. The instructor is a chiropractor. There are twenty six episodes, and one episode to use while you are in pain.
Hugs,
Sherry
ETA: Donna-I hope your mom is feeling better and that you can relax today-what an awful experience-hugs!