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03-22-24, 04:30 PM | |
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prettyinpink, I agree that it is indeed messier than my statement. I’ve struggled with weight perception well, just about forever, and have had a tendency to discount someone I see as a fitness professional that doesn’t fit my particular perception of what they “should” look like in that arena. I am still working to overcome my own moments of prejudice. I do recall a discussion here in the past about a favorite instructor of mine who gained weight as a result of a disease. There were some who were unkind as if her look made her less fit or valuable as an instructor. IIRC she stopped putting out workout videos after that, not that I’m declaring this to be the reason—I don’t know and wouldn’t speculate. I remember this incident since it really woke me up as to my own “judginess"
about equating a “look” with actual fitness. The Cathe video in question was a very old one—might even be one that was originally on VHS. I have almost everything she ever made and that’s the only comment I can recall that was that specific, although the wedding video did have plenty of “look your best” talk.
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03-22-24, 11:39 PM | |||
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(What about that last point? I long noticed that even when VF had a lot more self-complaints about weight, size, and appearance, VFers still universally agreed with the Expert Advice of the time about about avoiding saying such things around young children. I wonder if what happens is less that young children "can't see the difference" and more that there actually isn't a hard difference, young children notice the fact, and they have yet to learn the accepted societal conditioning that allows us to pretend otherwise. ) I see both of those as forms of "pigeonholing." The specific judgments, the resulting choices, and the perceived direction ("someone else calls this 'unfeminine'" vs. "I call this 'unfeminine for myself'") may differ, but the underlying type of thinking isn't too different. In particular I'm reminded to wonder how often people would decide that something isn't "feminine" (or "masculine" or whatever) without a suspiciously similar idea floating out there. I'll also have more responses later about other points in this and other posts!
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03-23-24, 11:59 AM | ||
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However, I have a fundamental disagreement with you: I don’t believe there is no difference between male and female, or that any perceived differences are solely due to sexism or societal conditioning. Studies in basic biology, genetics, evolution, and anthropology would also not agree with you. I don’t wish to go back and forth on this, as there’s really no point. Thanks for the interesting thread, I’ve enjoyed it. But it now occurs to me that this conversation is becoming ironic and strange. Did it occur to you that a man telling a woman in a forum of mostly women that her concept of her own femininity is based on sexism, is sexist in itself? I’m happy to continue interacting in threads on workouts. I suspect you’d have some interesting things to share. |
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03-23-24, 02:31 PM | |
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I'm not saying something quite like what your post is saying. At least one of my "later" posts is intended to elaborate on the subject (although somewhat indirectly).
I intend to continue writing that post, though I'm also reminded of one reason that I've never felt at home on VF (and one thing in an alternative universe's version of VF that would've kept me from ever joining it). [EDIT: I addressed the likely point of confusion more directly in a later post.
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03-23-24, 02:32 PM | |
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Thanks to both hch and prettyinpink for providing such an interesting and—shockingly enough these days--civil discussion!
I so agree that we can never be completely objective, as one’s viewpoint can never be completely separate from experience and/or genetics/biology. I think that women could offer similar comments on a man’s idea of what is “masculine” FOR HIM vs. what society says is “masculine.” I do think that there is both internal and external criticism and they are different animals. I also think that it’s fine for hch to comment about views women have about their own view of femininity, as I am free to discount it or not based on his lack of experience (both biological and life) as a woman. I don’t see it as overt sexism, but I do consider the source and evaluate it for how credible it is to me—just like I do with any other opinion. I have certainly enjoyed the perspective offered on the topic.
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03-23-24, 05:29 PM | ||
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The example from certain sports (at least in what I've seen of it) seems not to be targeted at women (or at men), has a "functional" and activity-specific intent (not an aesthetic one), and doesn't try to be some universal exercise recommendation anyway. Skipping Leg Day, at least in what I've heard, doesn't tend to be specifically opposed to leg muscle on men or something like that. It seems to be more from neglecting body parts and emphasizing others, in a way that I'd still call "aesthetic-related" but not "anti-leg," more of what we may call a sin of omission. A similar example would be neglecting the lower back--I can't think of anyone who's very anxious about it growing "too large," but it just isn't a "mirror" or "beach" muscle, and anyone whose driving concern is aethestic may be tempted not to do much with for the lower back until there's a problem.
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"It doesn't happen all at once," said the Skin Horse. "You become. It takes a long time. That's why it doesn't happen often to people who break easily, or have sharp edges, or who have to be carefully kept. Generally, by the time you are Real, most of your hair has been loved off, and your eyes drop out and you get loose in the joints and very shabby. But these things don't matter at all, because once you are Real you can't be ugly, except to people who don't understand." The Velveteen Rabbit |
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03-23-24, 05:50 PM | |
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Wow! I don’t check in for awhile and come back to some craziness!
I agree that hch is not being sexist but pointing out observations regarding views of Femininity within the fitness world. His views are accurate. Also, I feel like he is an ally to women and not trying to take up space. As a feminist, I can tell you women play a huge part in tearing apart other women. In fact, women do the dirty work for men. Women will cut up a woman’s appearance faster than you can blink. I don’t blame women, initially, for doing that because of the conditioning we experience since childhood. However, I do blame women for continuing to do so and not doing the work to unlearn all of that crap. Women don’t owe femininity to anyone. Women don’t owe thinness to anyone. And, we certainly don’t owe pretty to anyone. None of those things determine our worth or our right to exist in the bodies we possess. It is a fact that fat bodies, queer bodies, brown bodies, old bodies all feel less than welcome in a fitness space that is predominantly thin, white, heterosexual, young, and “conventionally feminine (or masculine)”. I’m not going to put words in his mouth but when I read no fundamental difference between boys and girls, I interpret that to mean they can both be athletic and strong. Yet, boys are encouraged to do so and girls are encouraged to be thin and pretty. They can be athletic and strong as long as they are still thin and pretty. *barf emoji* Aesthetics does still play a huge part in fitness. It has been that way since the beginning and is still that way. Why women are portrayed in fitness videos wearing skimpy clothes with their fake boobs popping out when the videos are marketed to women is beyond me. We have all heard all the aesthetics talk in more videos than we can count. The fitness world is not very inclusive. The Health At Every Size movement is still looked down upon. People still think they can look at someone and determine if they are fit or not which is complete BS.
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03-23-24, 06:20 PM | |
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Gemini2874, where do you see craziness in this thread? I see thoughtful debate and an exchange of ideas and perspectives. I’m asking honestly, not to stir the pot, as I’ve been enjoying the discussion and commented previously on how civilized it was—at least it has seemed so to me.
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03-23-24, 06:30 PM | |
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I didn’t think the conversation was becoming ironic and strange as mentioned earlier. I think sometimes things become uncomfortable for others when truths are pointed out. But, I think everyone has the right to their opinion (and to state their opinion) and I respect that right- even if I don’t agree with what may or may not be said.
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